Memories

This weekend I was thinking about the whole cemetery field trip. My friends mother passed away and yet she still came to the cemetery with us. I really do not understand how she went when her mom had just died, but I guess different people deal with situations differently than others. I know if my mom had recently died a cemetery is the last place I would want to be. I understand that we are all different, but how could you visit a place where everyone is dead. A gloomy place with no light or anything. She did not even seem sad at all to be there. SHe was actually acting normal.
The other day my friends and I were talking and we were trying to see how to deal with our friends mother dying, It is so difficult to comfort someone who has lost someone very important to them. She loved her mother so much, her mother was like her best friend, and now she is gone. How can someone deal with that? I know if my other mother died right now, I know that I would have a very hard time dealing with that. A Grief Observed showed me that everyone is different and when someone is dealing with a loss you have to give them their space. A person cant heal someone else, only God can. As a friend we can only comfort her and make sure that she is fine, and ask if there is anything we can do. Other than that a person who is dealing with a death is going to have to deal with it themselves and with God of course because He is the only one that can fully heal someone of a previous hurt. In my conclusion, I feel that people can only help someone who is grieving with a loss by only comforting them, and not trying to be their psychologist.